Components of Successful Relationships
Long term relationships require care and work to maintain closeness. Common components found in successful relationships include: communication, respect, trust, sharing, individuality and self-care. In addition, it is helpful to approach the challenges and triumphs of life (and the relationship) as a team. Fighting fairly, supporting one another and not holding grudges all help with this goal.
Successful relationships are based on the following components:
· Communication. Listen to your partner. Avoid blame and judgment. Do not make assumptions. Don’t let your emotions dictate your behavior.
· Trust and respect. A sense of trust is present when each person feels safe to be open, honest and genuine. Respect helps build this through not judging or criticizing the other’s opinions, feelings and beliefs.
· Team approach. When tough times hit, try to remember you’re on the same team. You either both win or both lose. Support each other and work together. Relationships are not meant to be a tug of war against each other. In fact, you both should be on the same side pulling against the world.
· Deal with problems as they arise. Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. Addressing differences one at a time helps avoid bad feelings spoiling a good relationship. Do not hold grudges; work through the matter and let it go.
· Share responsibility and decision making. Healthy relationships are an equal partnership. This applies to the work involved as well as the power dynamics between the couple.
· Fight fair. Judging your partner undermines a relationship. Address behavior without criticizing the person. Know where your partner’s vulnerable spots are and never use these during conflicts.
· Take care of yourself. It is your responsibility to know what you want and determine how to achieve that. Make any requests of your partner clear and direct. It is not okay to blame someone for your failure to assert yourself.
I wonder why I sit and cry. Wish I could shed all these tears, I’m down and out. I’ll keep on moving and tryna get out. I dont know how to move on, where I went wrong. I wish i could live with no fear,so down and out. I’ll keep it moving and tryna get out somehow…
When you love someone, you grant them the space and total freedom to be who they are, for this is the greatest gift you could give them, and love always gives the greatest gift
Your emotions will tell you how you’re doing in life. If you don’t like your emotional reaction, you need to clean up the lies that you believe. For fear and guilt are your only enemies. Love and awareness are your true friends. Don’t confuse one with the other, for one will kill you, while the other gives you life. And remember, your feelings will never get you into trouble, because your feelings are your truth.
Every relationship can be a lesson in self-worth. The person who is the hardest to forgive is the one who can teach you the greatest lessons. Its important to remember, that when you believe that “We are all One,” its virtually impossible to find that hurting another “feels good.” For hurting another means hurting yourself. So-called “irresponsible behavior” vanishes & you’re gifted with the freedom to create a new life.
Maybe part of loving is learning to let go, maybe it’s learning to turn our wounds into wisdom, maybe the pain can be burned as fuel for our arduous journey, maybe we shouldn’t cry when the sun is gone, because our tears won’t let us see the stars… Maybe, God brings us into deep waters, not to drown us, but to cleanse us. Just maybe…
What is life? They say it’s something between Birth and Death… It’s B to D, But what’s between B and D? Its “C”! What’s C? It’s your CHOICE. So remember, there are two primary choices in life; to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.
You are who you believe you are in life. Your world is just your perspective. Your world is a collection of your beliefs that produce the experience of you being in this world. It is your world that you are experiencing. Having struggles in your life is a sign that you are transforming your world. If your life isn’t working then change your beliefs; redefine the way you see things to experience it in a whole new way.
Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man’s rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved
– – Hebrew TalmudThere are moments in your life that make you and set the course of who you’re going to be. Sometimes they’re little, subtle moments. Sometimes, they’re big moments you never saw coming. No one asks for their life to change, but it does. It’s what you do afterwards that counts. That’s when you find out who you are. Remember, the greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that outlasts it.
– -Angelus”Energy (positive/negative) is contagious: You either affect people or you infect them. Would you hug someone with the measles? Negative thinking is like having measles of the mind. Instead of you itching, you get bitching; instead of you scratching, you get bashing; instead of irritation, you get frustration. Now do u wanna be close to people like that?
– -T.Harv EkerI could be the most delectable, delicious and most wondrous peach in the world and I could offer it to everyone. But there are people who are allergic to peaches. They may really want a banana and so often we become a banana for others. All the lost energy it takes to be a banana, when your really a peach! If you wait long enough, you’ll find a peach lover and then you can live your life as the finest peach and not a 2nd rate banana.
– -Leo Buscaglia”The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows and the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.
– -Audrey HepburnIt’s easy to carry the past as a burden instead of a school. It’s easy to let it overwhelm you instead of educate you. Take time to gather up the past so that you will be able to draw from your experiences and invest them in the future. Life is not just the passing of time. Life is the collection of your experiences and their intensity. That’s the magic of living.
